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Jan
31
Title:  Why You're More Likely To Find A Serious Relationship Around Valentines Day
Author:   amguesa21  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 01/31/2017      

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It's a fact...The months of January and February result in more long-term relationships than any other month combined. We surveyed 500 single members on our website and learned that 68% were more likely to consider/enter a serious relationship during the beginning of the year. Why? It's due to the state-of-mind that singles are in. It's true, a big factor in a relationship working is timing. January is all about resolutions and new beginnings and one of the top New Years resolutions out there is to find a romantic relationship.

<a href ="https://www.onspeeddating.com/eventdetail.aspx?EventID=1469">Valentines Day</a> is all the rage in February for couples and singles alike and again leads to much self-evaluation. Many singles give themselves the deadline of Valentines Day to find a date that will hopefully turn into a lasting-relationship. 

While I'm against putting pressure on finding a relationship, I say make sure to get out there for any <a href ="https://www.onspeeddating.com/eventdetail.aspx?EventID=1469">Valentines Day Singles Events</a> taking place in your city so as to take advantage of the large turn-out (you'll see a lot of new faces) and the relationship state-of-mind that the majority of singles in attendance will be in. 

In NYC we have a few great Valentines Day Singles events coming up. On Saturday, February 11th we're hosting our annual <a href ="https://www.onspeeddating.com/eventdetail.aspx?EventID=1469">Pre Valentines Day Singles Mixer</a> benefitting the single cats and dogs of Bideawee animal rescue at Hudson Station. This is a great opportunity to put yourself out there on a large-scale (300+ singles are expected to attend) and line yourself up a date for Valentines Day.

On Saturday, February 11th in Austin we're also hosting a Valentines Day Speed Dating Marathon you won't want to miss.

On Tuesday, February 14th (actual Valentines Day) we're hosting a Valentines Day Speed Dating Marathon at M1-5 Lounge where participants will get to date up to 24 singles 24-45 in one evening.

Here are a couple of tips for maximizing your time out at a singles events this Valentines Day:

1. Keep an open mind. Don't cut yourself off to possibilities. Even if you don't find someone attractive or think they are your type you should still be willing to engage in a conversation with them. Who knows maybe they have a friend, co-worker or sibling that would be perfect for you. 

2. Stay off your cell phone. There's nothing more off-putting or that screams unapproachable when someone is at a social event and constantly engaged with their cell phone. 

3. Talk to women and men. You may not meet your "match" at this event but by speaking with the same gender maybe you'll find an amazing new wingwoman/wingman.

4. Participate in icebreakers. These are designed to facilitate introductions. Some may be cheesy but just play along and see who you end up meeting. Quite often just for participating you'll be eligible to win a prize or free event.

5. Don't put pressure on yourself to meet "the one." Instead try to just focus on meeting new people and having fun.








 






Dec
1
Title:  Top Outings And Events For NYC Singles This Holiday Season.
Author:   amguesa21  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 12/01/2016      

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If you're single and living in New York, "the singles capital of the world" you'll definitely want to check out some of these activities, events and first-date spots.

Saturday, December 10th: SantaCon "Ho-ing for charity"
You can't really go wrong with thousands of drunken singles in Santa costumes merrily trollop-ing from bar to bar in the city. And as if that weren't enough, admission is just a $10 donation, which goes to charity. http://santacon.nyc/faq 

Volunteer: If you're single during the holidays you should definitely volunteer to help others. I know so many singles that have done so and ended up meeting their significant other in the process. Give and you shall receive. It's cliché but true. Whether it be a coat drive, volunteering to walk homeless dogs at your local animal shelter or serving meals on Christmas, there are countless organizations and ways to give back this holiday season. https://www.newyorkcares.org/ 

Saturday, December 31st : New Year's Eve Singles Party @Stitch Lounge: This is a no-brainer. If you're single on NYE, you need to be at this party. 400 singles, hour open bar, complimentary appetizers, DJ/dancing, continental breakfast and more. If you're single on New Year's Eve, you're definitely looking for love…or at a minimum, a kiss at midnight. This much I know. I met my man what will be on 12/31, 5 years ago at this very singles soirée. http://www.onspeeddating.com/eventdetail.aspx?EventID=1389 Tip: Get your tickets now and save $50.00. 

A couple of great first date spots you'll want to check out include the below:


Max Brenner's in Union Square: You really can't go wrong with 'chocolate by the bald man.” This really is a great date spot. Gazing across a table of chocolate fondue into the eyes of your date while sipping on a warm “hug mug” of Mexican Spicy Hot Chocolate is kind of hard not to enjoy. http://maxbrenner.com/locations/usa/restaurant-nyc/ 

Café Lalo: This is one of the most famous little cafes in NYC, as seen in the now classic flick “You've Got Mail.” It's French inspired, small, cozy and very intimate. Did I mention they often have live music? Usually smooth jazz or classical music. It's a great pre-game spot before the movies or the theater. It's also a perfect little nightcap spot after dinner. https://www.google.com/#q=cafe+lalo 

Flute Bar: Not gonna lie, I've never gone to this bar on a first date and not ended up making out with the person I was with. It's chic, comfortable and most importantly…lounge-y. They have amazing cocktails and small bites to nosh on. http://www.flutebar.com/ 


Nov
9
Title:  Reality v. The Dream
Author:   JimReese007  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 11/09/2014      

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When I was a kid, my dream woman is a half-Asian, half-Colombian gymnast with a degree in culinary arts who is a die hard fan of the N.Y.Giants.  She had an English accent and a Richard Pryor sense of humor.  In my child-like imagination, she was out there.  I just needed to be in the right coffee shop, in the right city, at the right time.  She'd come in and we'd lock eyes. Fireworks would go off in my head and privates.  She'd wink, and I'd give a smooth up-nod and say something clever like "Took you long enough."  And we'd laugh.  There would be passion.  And great food. And gymnastics.

Right. The dream.

The reality is that I got older.  And a little wiser, perhaps.  Waiting for that butterfly-inducing romantic comedy moment was tossed aside with my aspirations of space travel and ninja training.  I met elderly people who had been married longer than I have been alive, and I listened to their stories.  My grandparents met in a drug store in Virginia, back in 1953.  Grandpa was single, Grandma was engaged.  He persued, she shied as a betrothed woman should.  They didn't see each other for months.  Grandma's wedding was on the horizon, and grandpa went for it.  Grandma relented. She came clean and broke off the engagement.  Two months later, she and grandpa were married.  They were together, inseparably, for 60 years before grandpa passed last year.  The other guy probably thought grandma was his dream girl.

Yep. Reality.

So now I guess my dream girl is a woman who'll stick around, even when somebody as undeniably suave as gramps comes along and tries to sweep her away.

Oct
26
Title:  Halloween!!
Author:   HomiLoverFriend  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/26/2014      

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If you're like me, this is your favorite time of year.  How often do adults get to play dress up and get drunk without anybody judging them?  So, I am looking for some awesome ideas for a costume.  Last year I was the girl from the Sun Drop commercials (you know the one with the jean shorts and the headband). This year I need to step up my game for these parties.  I won't be doing anything generic like a sexy nurse, or a princess. Dig deep. Go!
Oct
26
Title:  Friend Zoned?
Author:   MmmKay  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/26/2014      

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Getting out of the friend zone isn't that complicated.  If you find yourself there, it's either because you haven't informed your crush that you'd like to be more than friends, or you did, and you were given a no.  In the second case, you keep it moving and don't look back, obviously.  But if you haven't said anything, you have nobody to blame but yourself.  Sometimes you have to be a man (or woman) about the situation and put your cards out there to get what you want.
Of course, there are situations, or shall we call them excuses, that make people hesitate.  Your crush just came out of something serious, and you want to give them time to sort things out without laying ultimatums down at the wrong time.  Or maybe you don't want to run what is already a genuine friendship.  Those are rare, I get it. But again, either you are content with the current standing as a platonic acquaintance, or you want more. You can't leave the ball in the other person's court.  Sometimes a person simply doesn't think of you that way until you present yourself as such, and you may be surprised what happens if you give it a shot.  Get to it!
Oct
19
Title:  A Poem About Things I Love
Author:   Wolverine1  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/19/2014      

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Angelina's mouth.  
Turtle shells. 
Yoga pants.
Spiced rum and beach weather.
A woman's sigh.
Friendly pit bulls.
Socks out the laundry.
Cheese, on everything.  
Sunday living rooms full of beer and football.
Baby laughter.
Breakfast for dinner.
Sideboob.

Oct
16
Title:  Speed Dating
Author:   HomiLoverFriend  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/16/2014      

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Remember back in, say 2000, when people used to look down on internet dating sites and the whole concept of meeting someone online?  Yeah, since then a bunch of folks who are now happily married have disclosed that they met on the Web, and now the whole idea looks a little different.  In fact, it is laughable to think about how we can view certain actions a certain way in one generation, only to find that our stigmas were based on hangups rather than credible cause for concern.  Don't take me wrong, you still have to screen people for crazy (as much as you can), but how is meeting someone on the Web more dangerous than meeting them in person? The way I see it, you can size up a person with the buffer of physical distance in between you before deciding they're OK, and then you can decide the terms of this meeting.  Someone coming on strong in person? There's the awkwardness of letting them down easy and not looking a certain way.  Letting someone down on the net is pressing a block button and putting their emails in the spam folder.

Speed dating is similar, but different.  Sure, it's more physical, more superficial, but it's a crock to say you don't care about the physical attributes of a person who catches your eye.  You may not have supermodel expectations, but you'd like to be attracted to someone you're spending time with.  Understand that I mean attractive to YOU, and not necessarily the general public.  The interesting and useful part about the concept of speed dating is that it removes the pretenses found at pubs or clubs.  The flock of beauties who come out in their most luxurious plumage, who irresistably girate on the floor only to block all advances before they begin.  Or the dark and broody gentleman at the end of the bar, who just wanted to drown out his thoughts with loud music and the laughter of others.  These are NOT the type of people you meet at a speed dating event.  Everyon who attends is looking for someone, else they wouldn't have gone through the trouble of getting prettied up.  Even better, the event you're attending is usually for a specific age group and "type" (divorced, students, etc.), so yet another layer of pretense is removed by simply attending.  I think the hardest part about it is the act of putting yourself on display to be judged by another, but there is little risk of embarrasment unless you ask a presumptuous question during the course of the brief convo, like "so you're going to pick me, right?"  In my experience with speed dating, I find that everyone is cordial and polite, even if they aren't interested, and the selection process is done discreetly, so there is no chance of shattered egos.  There is, of course, the fear that no matches will occur, but such is the risk in any form of courtship.  All in all I would endorse speed dating because it provides the safety of online dating (events always happen in public places with tons of people and security around), the ego protection, and combines it with the irreplacable aspect of meeting a person, feeling their vibe, admiring their choice of perfume/cologne, then tops that with the efficiency of timed interactions.  
Oct
12
Title:  First-Time Callers
Author:   NicetoMeetYou  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/12/2014      

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It occurred to me after a bunch of first-time phone calls from numbers I had given out at parties and bars (not THAT many!) that some have difficulty getting past that awkward first convo, or rather, getting into it, and may not be aware to the first impression's effect on your chances.  It's understandable.  You don't know if I'm changing a diaper with one hand and cooking with another, or if  I am holding a business meeting while running a marathon.  OR, I could be staring at the phone and waiting for your number to pop up in between pillow fights.  You just don't know.  Which means the first thing you should expect is to expect nothing. The flirting and the laughter and even an agreement that you would call at a certain time don't necessarily guarantee that we'll be receptive of the contact.  Any number of personal things could have happened in our lives between the exchange and the call.

The last guy that called me was already at the bar, drunk, and wanted to know if I wanted to come out.  That wasn't the offensive part, what offended me was that he didn't say who he was or where I knew him from before inviting me out on the town.  Factoring in the slur in his speech, it still occurred to me that the common act of identifying your self first isn't par for the course, and this is why I say it is the first thing that needs to happen before any expectation of rapport.  When we see your number in our phones, there are any number of things that could surface, such as "Oh, it's him!"....or "who is this [insert your name], and why is he calling me?" If the number exchange happened during a "partying" situation, there is a stronger chance of the latter. Something like  "This is [name], and you know me from [meeting place or mutual friend]" at least gives us the opportunity to figure out the nature of the call.  If remember you and seem genuinely pleased that you called, great.  If we don't, and don't have the time or patience to try and figure it out with you, then you have about three chances to remind us in more helpful ways before excusing yourself.  Sounds mean, but if you're still getting fuzziness after several attempts, it's either because I am not intrigued enough to play along, or nothing you did was memorable enough to justify continued communication.

Once you've successfully identified yourself, the answer to the previous uncertainty is to simply ask if the time of the call is convenient for the person you called.  If you are in such a rush that you skip past considering my time, then why would I set aside time for you in any context?  A lot of people think "How are you?" counts as the same thing, and for some it does, but I think that expression is so common that it easily has the same meaning as "hello".  You may get a "fine" that means something else, like things aren't fine but I don't know you enough to vent. Also, starting out a convo by quizzing someone on their state of being forces them to decide how much to reveal to you in the first sentence, so I find that "Are you busy?" or "Did I catch you at a bad time?" more general and appropriate to the status quo.  On top of that, it shows you are considerate, which will never make you look worse in any social situation.

This is where the initial etiquette branches off into specifics, as it is more about your specific personality and the personality of the person you called, so you're kind of on your own beyond here.  Sometimes being forward works, sometimes it doesn't. Depends on the person, depends their mood.  Who knows, maybe I'd have been bored and looking for something to do when the guy called from the bar and hopped on over, or maybe I had just finished crying over something happened a long time ago.  

Oct
9
Title:  The Official Wingman Code of Conduct, v.1.0
Author:   JimReese007  |  Location: NEW YORK
Date: 10/09/2014      

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The following laws are the official guide to effective wingmanship for the purpose of ushering your designated partner-in-crime--henceforth referred to as PIC, or your "charge"--through their adventures in the dating world.  You, the wingman (or woman, not sure what the ladies call it) are hereby obliged to follow these guidelines to the letter.  Should you fail in any of these responsibilities, you are hereby relegated to  probationary "associate" status, until such a time that you make it up to your charge through acts of servitude or consolation gifts.

Article 1: Availability --The most important part of being a dependable wingman is to physically be there in support of your PIC. This means that last-second cancellations for previously agreed activities is expressly prohibited.  This includes your availability during these activities.  It is forbidden to leave your charge in search of your own prospective adventures, or to excuse yourself for such flimsy excuses as having to get up early without first securing your charge's romantic interests for the remainder of the evening.

Article 2: Levels -- Your coolness levels are to operate at 83% the level of your PIC, so as to give the impression that your charge keeps interesting company, but not so much that you overshadow his/her exploits in the eyes of potentials.  Should your PIC lack the required coolness to sufficiently engage in sustainable interactions, you are permitted to elevate your coolness factor to accommodate this lack, but not beyond capability(Section 1, Article 4, provision c).  The latter includes changing the subject if your PIC engages in such behavior as telling potentially offensive jokes or rambling about previous love interests. 

Article 3: Engagement -- One of the principle role as a wingman is to run interference on agents called "blockers".  Blockers, as the name implies, are members of the target's faction whose job is to screen candidates who approach. You are to engage these blockers with charming repartee' and prevent them from running interference on your PIC's engagements.  However, this does not include what many colloquially refer to as "taking one for the team", and you are in no obligation to engage further than cordiality any party that conflicts with personal standards or interests.  However, you may engage in any romantic activities with the target's entourage, so long as it does not a) upset the original target; b) cause you to become separated from your PIC; or c) involve the original target (unless, of course, your charge is also participating, at which point the rules of engagement are hereby dismissed in favor of the "party" rule).  As Wingman services often require you to engage in discourse with the target, you should use this opportunity to speak well of your PIC, expressing his/her cooking ability, consistent dependability, and/or general awesomeness.

Article 4:  Ego Management -- In the event that your target suffers rejection at the hands of one or a number of candidates, you are to provide one, or all, of the following services:
        a) The provision of chemical enhancement, i.e. strong drinks to build confidence.  Be advised: too many         strong drinks may cause your charge to become unmanageable, at which point you have failed at your         wingman duties.
        b)  A steady stream of complimentary dialogue, including such effective tactics as reminding your charge of more         successful dating campaigns, or the classic "he/she was stuck up anyway."
        c) As an extension of these services, you are obligated, within reason, to inform your PIC if he/she is engaging a         target beyond his/her capability to attain.  Unfortunately, there is no explicit criteria by which to judge your         PICs capability other than your own knowledge of them, so you must use judgement when deciding between         encouragement and discouragement.  

Thus concludes the initial version of the Wingman Code of Conduct.  Further revisions are planned at a later date.  Readers and participants are encouraged to provide statutes for review in the designated area below.

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