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Wanted to share some of my tips and techniques for turning up the heat on a first date. Trust me these work!
GET DOWN TO IT
Life is too short for there to be taboo topics. I say put it all out there so as not to waste time. You want passion in your relationship? Talk about topics of substance. Religious views, politics, sexual preferences...everything you were always told NOT to talk about on a first date are the conversation topics that will really enable you to see if you're going to be compatible with and potentially connect with a person in the long run. Why wait till the third or fourth date to find out that they voted for Trump? Seriously, do you have that kind of time to waste?
SHARE DATING "HORROR STORIES"
You don't necessarily want to dive into your recent divorce or how your college sweetheart broke your heart and you're still in therapy trying to get over it. However, relating on a "single in the city" level is a good thing. If you met online ask what their worst online date was. I'm sure you've had your share of bad dates as well. This topic should provide much entertainment value and give you insight into your date, giving you the knowledge so you hopefully won't make the same "bad date" mistakes of your predecessors.
BE BOLD
The internet and technology have enabled singles to date 24/7. How do you stand out and become more than just another first and last date casualty? Skip the boring, run-of-the-mill first date questions that the masses engage in and mix it up. Find out his/her celebrity crush. If they could only eat at one restaurant for the rest of their live where it would be, what they would or wouldn't do for a million dollars. This line of dialogue is open ended, flirty and fun and will allow you to gain more insight into your potential mate.
PLAY GAMES
If your date is a movie buff or geography guru, rather than just talking about the subject turn it into a game. I.e. pick an actor or actress and go back and forth naming their movies until one of you can't come up with one. Whoever lasts the longest wins and gets a massage and/or the loser picks up the next round of drinks. A little competition is healthy for a relationship, especially a new one. It will help you gauge how intelligent, creative, competitive, collaborative and most importantly, what type of winner/or loser your date is. It also creates a the good type of "sexual tension" that will help secure you a second date.
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